Why am I drawn to the same type of person over and over again, and always
surprised when it does not work out?

We are creatures of habit and patterns and usually we re not aware of them.  Some habits are good, like brushing our teeth. Others, lead to decisions that can cause us unhappiness. We tend to do the same things over and over again without thinking which recreates similar situations because it is comfortable and what we know.  It is only by taking the time to decide from a clear perspective what we want to create and attract into our lives that we will start to be attracted to different types of people.

We also attract people who mirror back to us how we fell about ourselves.  So by taking the time to reflect on the choices we’ve made, clean up unfinished business, embrace who we are and prepare to move forward with clarity and choice, you can avoid this common experience.

Your past does not have to represent your future.  You can change your thoughts, beliefs, and attitude and DECIDE what you want. Define it and then allow it into your life, and of course take attractive actions toward making it reality while you embrace the present and live fully today with confidence.

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How do I know if someone is right for me?

Most of the time we rely on chemistry or attraction solely to fall for someone without being clear within ourselves what qualities we want in another person for a healthy relationship. 

You know someone is right for you when you take the time to create a clear understanding of what the right person for you looks like. Develop a   comprehensive list to identify the qualities, attributes and qualities of your ideal partner. Then specify the Top 5 Absolute Essential List of qualities that they must have for you to even consider entering a committed relationship.  This helps you make an assessment from conscious choice rather than from unconscious habit.

Enjoying relations that are loving and satisfying begins with you identifying what that means, and loving yourself enough to wait until you find the one that is perfect for you.

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What are the secrets to a healthy relationship that lasts?

Commit to love each other through all the trials and tribulations of life. Focus on the wonderful things you love about each other. Communicate openly, honestly, and without judgment.  Be willing to listen and hear what your partner is saying without inflecting your needs into it.  Honor your partner’s issues.  Speak your partners love language to them.  Enjoy each other’s company.  Make each other important and a priority in your life.  These are just a few ways that contribute to a healthy relationship. 

How you view and feel about yourself will greatly impact your relationship.  Take responsibility for your feelings, needs, and desires.  Be kind to yourself so that you can offer your best to your partner.   Make the decision to stay together and support each other through the tough times as well as the happy times.  Make the decision to treat each other with love, respect and dignity.  Have fun together.

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